Ep. 104: We Talked to a Real Throuple - So… Are We Doing This?

Hey Lauren, I want to start off by telling you a story. All right, and this is true. I want people to understand that this is an absolute true story. I'm not making this up.

This actually happened. Well, a lot of it, but maybe the foundation isn't true, but it may come off like a testimony. I received a bikini Addiction bikini, a blue bold bikini Addiction bikini. Now this is the first time I've ever received one, and I want to tell you about my experience.

I always wanted to receive that little purple package. And lo and behold, it finally arrived at my door being held by a beautiful woman. This beautiful woman told me, I am going to try this on for you in front of your eyes. And I said, Well, OK.

Immediately I'm thinking, I ordered this beautiful bikini. I didn't order this beautiful woman, but I'm getting this. Customer service. I didn't even really get a chance to look at the beautiful purple package.

Nobody talks about the beautiful woman that comes with it, that tries it on. I don't know. I mean, I haven't heard anyone comment on this. Neither have I.

Why is nobody talking about this? So this woman, I say, can I offer you someplace to change? She says, not needed. Takes off.

All of her clothing and puts on this beautiful blue bikini diction bikini and models it for me. Hands down. So hot. Oh my God.

It looked so hot and I was so grateful. I was very happy. Yes, as a customer, as a customer, as a thank you, I then gave her a full body handshake. But let me just tell you about what it felt like, what it looked like.

Yes, it looked how it looks. It was absolutely flattering from every single angle. It was smooth everywhere, soft. It felt like it was made for me to fit inside of it.

Do you know what I mean? Just that that feeling. Honestly, once, once I saw it in front of me, I was like, I need to get. In that, you know what I mean, you know, when that package shows up, you see it and you're like, I need to get in that, right?

Also, like, you know, you see the photos of it, of course it shows up and you're like, but is it gonna feel good? Honestly, look, the only thing that may come off a little bit was a little bit tight, but I am not complaining about that at all. That was actually kind of a highlight for me, but Richard. And here's the thing.

Here's the, the test. When it got wet, it did exactly what it was supposed to do. Lauren, what was that? It just stayed on, just did exactly what it was supposed to do.

It's a bikini. It's a bikini addiction bikini. It did all of the things. Bikini Addiction, some packages are better than.

Others, yours is the best by far. Thank you for that. If anybody else wants to get a gift, I don't know if yours arrives like mine arrived. If it doesn't, you can receive it here and let's see what happens.

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77. You know 7, let the. Lauren. We have started once again.

How are you feeling? I like this cap backwards look you got going on. You know why? Why, Richard?

Because you're cute, but it makes you look a little hood. Thanks, Peter girl. Like I'm Avril Lavigne, you know, I saw. You the other day in a photo.

It might have been AI, but I was telling you this. You were in a bikini. I think the AI put sneakers on you. I had, I had to make it a square so it fit on a website and AI put sneakers on it.

I don't know why it was a turn on for me. What is that? I don't know. Maybe it's an age thing.

Like it's a like you want me to be younger. Why do you think that, or young girls, why were you gonna, why do you think teenagers, teen girls, young teen girls, 18, that's a teenager, wear bikinis and white sneakers because that is not something. Why is that in your brain? Oh yeah, because they wear sneakers for everything.

To me, that's what I see in Hooters. Like to me, to me that's a Hooters uniform. Um, to me it seemed like cheer. Oh really?

Yeah, cheer bikinis, but you just went full high school student. OK, I don't know. I'm working on it with my fantasy daddy fantasy. OK, well, listen, here's the thing.

Today, today we're gonna talk about a few things. We're bringing our resident expert on and we're gonna talk about thropples and, uh, I've been thinking, I've been looking at you. I've come to the conclusion that I think you're bored of me. I've been looking around at other couples and I think that maybe it's time that we investigate, uh, ourselves being in a throle or finding a throle.

Entertaining the idea. Yeah, I mean entertaining it. We got to start somewhere. So, well, I can't have you with this sadness in your eyes every day.

I can't. OK, let's investigate. Let's start an audition. Well, let's talk first about how, how much you hate me.

That's. A bit of an exaggeration, but it wouldn't hurt to have a little spice in your life. Sure, yeah, OK, as something to added like a la nap, if you will. OK, so if we were going to have a thropple and maybe mix this up a bit, and I'm not a fan of thropples, but I think our relationship, our marriage is ready for it, needs it, frankly.

Like if we went to a counseling, maybe it's a permanent position, I don't know, but I feel like if we went to a marriage counselor, I think that advice that maybe we would get would be you need someone inside on the inside, yeah, it's too complicated for the two of you, and you need someone in there permanently. So I want to know what you want, and I would like to express what I would want, and I would like to see if we're at least close. OK, so we can start. because I want this to be like the NFL.

I was gonna say I feel like that may be a violation they're gonna come after just for hold on. We did, we just got an email from the NFL. We are being sued just for using that. Um, all right, so if you're gonna pick somebody, what is it that you want in your threesome couple?

What do you want? What is your person? What is your person a man or a woman? It's a great question.

I mean, it's something we have to investigate. I mean, I'm, I'm gender neutral. I know you're very like dick hungry. Well, whatever, but you know I'm here for what helps the relationship and I know you're selfish, so I'm open to either sex right now, but as far as attributes, I know that that can come in any gender but if let's just say cooking, cleaning, and laundry was important, then of course we'll get a woman.

It's the only ones that can do it. And then let's say men are incapable of, right? And then let's say something like fixing things and driving is important. Then of course we would get a man, right?

So I'm open like that. I know you're not. So, so let's then, woman, it is. So let's start.

Where, what kind of qualities do you want in person? This is physical and personality. Starting with the capabilities, let's start with capabilities. Uh, cooking is great.

OK, good cook. Yeah, OK. Someone who has to cook, someone with a high libido. OK, high libido.

Wait, is this not in menopause. They gotta be 18, yeah, like they're younger, way younger, 18 to 30. I was gonna say 19, um. So then is this a male or a female that we're talking about?

Uh, I haven't decided yet. I think that makes a difference. Oh, OK, probably female for me. This is a female.

OK. All right. OK. 18 to 19 year old female.

She has to be able to cook. This is already a tall order. She has a high libido. Anything else?

Like, is there any, anything else that she has to bring to the relationship? I don't want her prettier than me, right? Well, that's gonna be impossible, Lauren. How could you even ask for something like that?

I mean, I have jealousy issues. I don't want it to be like I want her to be in part of welcomed in our group, but like, not really. Well, we will try, and I would never even say anything if she was even remotely prettier than you. Yeah, you don't tell me for sure or her.

Don't tell her either. Well, now, who knows what I would tell her in private. Oh no, you can't do that. There's no side chatting.

No. All right, so there's rules. She can't be prettier than you. There's no side chatting, not funnier.

Yeah, nobody can be funnier than me. That's a rule. I'm always right. So that's another rule.

Sure. Do they have to call you like, um, Sir Richard, or no, there's no special, no, no special names except during sex, a clean person, like hygiene that like you don't want them to smell or like you mean you want them to tidy around the house, not even that they tidy. I just don't want them disturbing any of our routine and stuff. Like I would actually like them to clean up a little bit.

I mean, they, that's extra, of course, yeah. Bonus, but like, I don't want to like get up and there's like dirty dishes because, you know, what's her face didn't put her cup away and her plate away because it's just like, oh God. Now here's the weird thing is because you're listing a lot of things where I fail and I feel like maybe you're trying to replace me in a way. No, I don't want, it's like I want someone here on call when it's like we need them or we want them to do things, but like I don't really want them in my space.

Does that make sense? Like I don't want to. Know that they live here. I don't want their dishes around.

I don't want like, oh, they didn't replace the toilet paper. I totally get it. You know what I mean? Yeah, I get it.

OK. But like, oh, she's here for sex and I don't feel like it. That's a bonus for me. What if you, what if you get this person and then like you, her and I, we start having like inside jokes?

No, no, what are you talking about? That's not even no. one night I'm like, hey, Lauren, we're going to the mall. We're going to.

No, there's no special stuff. She's trying to figure out how this barely in a relationship, like how this throle thing works. Well, what is she getting out of it? She's gonna want to enjoy me.

I'm very enjoyable. So, so she's gonna want to go out with me. She's gonna want to go to dinner with me. She's gonna spend time with me, but that's not throppling if, if she's doing stuff with just you, that's, yeah, but you can come along.

But sometimes you're like, I don't want to go, and then I'm like, I'm always like that, sure. You're like, I want to stay home and I'll be like, well, we're going out to the clubs. Yeah, you're a big clubber. No, no, there's no like partying without me.

That's just exclusive. All right, so if I'm with my young hot chef, are we allowed to have play dates together? No, no, unless I'm say yes. All right, do we have sex in, in the same house sometimes where we're like only if I don't feel like it.

It's like a tag in or else I'm involved. I'm ruffling. If not, then I will pass the baton. You realize this is like a really this is a this is a, this is a well behaved cat basically just like.

Just saying you're just kind of describing a really well behaved trained cat that can cook. Um, all right, OK, well, what would you want? OK, tell me some things that would be important to you. Um, I think that I would want a man in my throttle.

Well, mine are for different reasons because I, I'm on the other side of this. First of all, there's a lot of work to do around the house, and I need somebody who knows heavy lift, lift heavy things. OK, yeah, I was gonna say that woman could do stuff around the house. No, but I need somebody.

You can't lift stuff. Yeah, I need somebody who can lift heavy things and while I'm sitting, carry me to bed if they want. As far as the, the sex goes, you know what, I'm, I'm tired. So having another penis here where I could be like, Hey, Will, maybe he's from Oklahoma.

That's just a random place that I just made up along with a random name. Hey, Will, go fuck Lauren because I need to take a nap. See, unlike selfish you, I'm OK with that, but you just gave permission. And you were asking, can I, can I secretly go fuck Will without your permission, but you just gave me permission.

So it's the same, it's the same thing. What if Will comes in, he's like, Yeah, I just banged Laura, and she's feeling great, like, Awesome, Will, thank you so much for doing that. I'm gonna go take a nap. Just checked it off the list.

Yeah, done, and I made you dinner, Richard. Thank you, Will. You're an awesome guy. Now come over here and give me a massage.

Don't forget the balls. It's always a happy ending. It's never not. That's built into the throle.

So Will cooks. He can, he can help with things. He can lift heavy things, yeah, yeah, carry you to bed and massage you to sleep. Uh, I need him also to be really insecure with his sexuality.

Oh, figuring stuff out. Yeah, I just want him to be like, it's OK, Will. Just try it. It's OK.

It doesn't make you gay. You don't have to go that far. Oh, I don't know. I don't know what we're doing to Will.

I'm not doing anything to Will. I'm just, I'm just showing Will it's OK, Will. It's hard, just like Will, yeah. Or what, how hot is he?

Is he like in a 10 or 11? Well, I think he should be, he should be on the younger side and hot so he can pull couples for us because, oh, that's actually really smart. Oh yeah, I'm not dumb. Like either, either her or him.

It's not gonna be full. We're, we're super shallow, so we need somebody to do this heavy lifting at events and stuff. So it's like you're not getting with him or her unless you take one for the team and suck my cock. I mean that's just how it works now, you know what I mean, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, that's how we worked.

Like they're like, oh my God, Will is so hot, and we're like, yeah, he is. Do you wanna get with him? And they're like, Yeah, I do. And he's like, and suck my cock, baby.

I don't know why I said baby at the end of that. It's like, yeah, yeah, it did sound forceful. That's what Will brings out in me. So I feel like something they should bring value to our relationship, but also to the business and the household.

So he does live with us, yes. Or do we, does he rent a house next door, so he's not in the space? Are we paying his rent? No, I mean, I guess I don't know.

Yeah, he either lives really close or he has to live with us. I think he lives with us, but in a separate room. Maybe you sleep in the same bed with him because you don't like that. You snore.

Well, you claim that I snore. I don't know. We're ready for it. I think maybe we're ready for an intern.

That sounds better. Well, really, like we don't have an HR department, like an intern with no morals and a really big cock. What happened to our girl? Well, I, you were asking what I want.

I mean, and to be honest, like if it's a, if it's a woman, I'm a feminist at heart. I believe that we all should give women a lot of space and a lot of time and a lot of patience to catch up to men. Yeah. The achievements of what men have done.

Should we be in a quadruple? Oh, hell no, it's too much. Maybe we should just hire somebody. Yeah, I think that's easier.

There's not a lot of rules down here in Mexico. I'm sure you can hire someone for cooking and sexual favors. Do we have to hire them though? Why can't we just do an internship?

That sounds good. Let's take applications. Do you want me to have Claude make a little submission form for us on the website? Do a Claude thing.

Yeah, you heard all of the things. Do we settle on a guy or a girl? Well, let's just leave it open right now and then we'll go through it. 30 and under.

I mean, we can, we can fire them or break up with them at any time and switch sexes because the truth is I have no emotional connection to them whatsoever. Is that thro if you don't have an emotional connection? I mean, we're not going to tell them that. No, we'll give him like a promise necklace or something and be like, we'll use the words love and care, but in actual we're going to be using them.

To be honest with you, I think we got this thropple thing down actually. I'm ready, and we brought on a person who's actually in a throle. So let's see if we actually nailed this or not. So we brought on our friend Casey who is in a thropple right now.

Pretty. Why do you say right now? Well, because presently he's in a throle. He was not in a throle, and now he's, now he's in a throle.

He's wishing you bad luck. No, I'm not. No confidence. I'm not.

Listen, I support you, Casey. I have a, let's put some money on this because I, I think this will last. Why am I getting thrown under the bus here? I never said it wouldn't.

I'm saying he is now because he currently, when we met him, he was not. So now he is. So now he is. I think it was you said right now, right now, right now, as opposed, it's the way you said it.

It's the way you said it, fine. I'll rephrase. By the time the podcast gets out, probably not. It's right now today for sure 100%.

All right, I will rephrase. I will go backwards. OK. Casey is in a, is a, is in a throle.

I can't even say it now because you're making me nervous. He's in a throle now. Casey is in a thropple now. Is that good enough?

Yeah, you just take out the right. OK, he's in a couple now. So I, like a lot of lifestyle people, I think have a lot of questions about just. Some of the things that happen inside of that type of relationship and dynamic, I know, right, yeah, I'm excited, and you, by the way, are gonna have a lot of questions when there's an 18 year old here with sneakers on and a bikini.

It's gonna have a lot of questions. Maybe is she gonna be in a thropple? We'll be all educated. That's what my thropple looks like.

We'll be educated. We'll know how to do it, right? OK, so let's learn. This is what I'm planning for an 18 year old.

Legal bikini clad on this, and I don't know if you've seen this, Casey, because this is what gets my teenage fantasy going. Lauren, I have to break in right here because I have to talk about us. It'll only be about 1 minute, which will actually wind up being about 2 minutes. Maybe 3.

I want to tell everybody right now we have about 10 spots left for our event in September. October, that's another month. I'm having my own event. I'm, you don't know.

I have 10 spots left for my, I'm having a special event party, yeah, and it's, it's in September. Oh, OK. Well, I'm having one in October. Forget it.

Let's talk about the October event. I want it to be about me, Richard. OK, OK. Also.

Coincidentally enough, 10 spots left in our October event. Uh-huh. We want everybody to be there. There's a really, really hot crowd that's gathering thus far.

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Have you seen that show? Nothing, nothing will make you want to have sex with younger girls than the show Euphoria. Once you start watching that, you're like, of course, it's horrible for society. It's wonderful that jerk.

But Richard, have you had a lot of sex with younger women, like as an older person? You're making a great point, and this is a whole different podcast. I, I, I have not, but I, the ones that I remember, which, which were, uh, on the podcast, on the podcast, yeah, but I know where you're going with this. And what I will say is the only times that it has worked out was the young girls with brains, and I think that's in some sort of a.

Resemblance of wiser than their years. That's the only time it was ever enjoyable for me. However, am I against a younger new bio body acting like a prop for me? I am not against that.

No, not at all. I'm not revisit. Like if I don't have to work at all, and she seems happy. So you're talking, you're talking about an AI fembott is what you're talking about.

100%. This is what's gonna happen. This is what's gonna happen, Casey. I know my life.

The day is gonna come where they're gonna go, we've come up with a fully automated fembot. You cannot tell the difference. You could program it to do anything you want, anything, and it's for a reasonable price, by the way, and maybe even covered by Medicaid, Medicare, yeah, your HSA, something like that. And then I drop dead.

No, you're gonna be tracking it on the computer and it's gonna be like arrives in one day, and then, and then your order has arrived, boom, I have a heart attack and die. Yeah, that's my life. Ironically, you just described my thro. Right there, that's it.

Good, we're gonna get into that. Can we interview our guests? Yes, um, alright, so Casey, are you ready? All right, good.

This is the thing that we have in the lifestyle world, right? We, we wonder about thropples, the dynamics, and I'm gonna speak for the general lifestyle out there, person or couple that's out there, when that thropple walks through the door and the feeling that one might have, what the stereotypes might be, what the insecurities might be. What this the perceptions might be and then I want to know what the reality is when I hear of a threle coming in, especially when it's in an event sense, sometimes I might think that these people are only gonna play with one another or they're only gonna try to cherry-pick hot girls and they just want a foursome. Like it's just a, it weeds out couples.

Yeah, yeah, it's just a greedy guy. That's all it is. It's like it's a greedy guy, greedy guy who wants to. Who, who wants to fulfill his fantasies.

How do you feel about that? Well, first of all, we're pretty new at this, so I feel like we are a clown car careening off of the guardrails as we go through this. So I'm gonna give you my honest perspective. To us, you're an expert, Richard.

My tagline is often wrong, but never in doubt. So I'm, I'm good to go. And our tagline is advice you should never follow. Perfect.

And I would say we've had 3 phases of being a thropo. The first phase was, we're just having fun. We're not even. We're Gonna name it, we don't want to jinx it.

In our situation, we were friends with our girlfriend before when she was with her ex, and they split up. We had a great relationship with them both, and we just kept doing stuff because we had a lot in common. And then one day we woke up and we were hanging out with some friends who were camping, and they had a lot of their friends there that we didn't know, and they started referring to us as the throle. And we're looking at each other, looking for the thropple, and then we realized, oh, wait, that's us.

referring and then we had a conversation we're like, well, are we a rebel? Is this really a thing? Like when, when did you realize? Were you guys like carrying something around, you're like, oh, this is heavy, we need an extra hand.

Like, what was the moment that you realized, uh, we would like another person? Do you remember when that was? We are the most accidental couple on the planet and it's entirely opposite of what I ever would have expected because when we first got in, we were like. We don't want to throw up a we're on Polly.

We're like just very regular lifestyle people. What happened was the three of us, when we got together, had so much fun. It was like mind blowing and magical. And not, and I'm not just talking about the physical part, which, which was way fun as well, but just the dynamic of the three of us laughing.

And, and I remember saying one time, my wife, it takes her about 45 minutes to get ready for anything. And our girlfriend. It takes her about 1 hour to get ready. So you would think 1 hour would cover the getting ready, but the two of them together, it takes 2 hours and 45 minutes to get ready.

It's literally my favorite part of the day. They're laughing. This to me just sounds exhausting. That's what this sounds like to me.

And I think there's a lot of people out there that, and I don't know if you were this person before, to me, that sounds absolutely exhausting. He's having compersion though. He's watching them have so much fun and he's loving them. Enjoying each other even though he's sitting and maybe waiting an extra hour and a half on the couch.

I want you to have a good life. I have enough trouble getting you to get ready to wait for two. No, thank you. I, because I'm still looking, not, I don't want to single you out.

Like why would you do this to yourself? Can't you just get somebody that lives close by? And if it is just companionship or just you want somebody to be with you and love on you, get a fucking cat. Like that's what I would do.

But here's the thing, Richard, I'm laying there in the bed. I'm already tired. I'm resting. I'm half asleep and I'm listening to them chitter chatter.

That is engagement I don't have to have. I'm just piggybacking. I'm phoning it in. Like this is like I'm resting and, and then here's the thing that we noticed when we did finally get out, which would be, you know, 11:15 at night or whatever, the three of us are having so much fun we have created like a vibration, like a lightness, a funness, a sexiness, so that when we do get to a party.

What we noticed happening was the people that are kind of like in sync with us, whether it's people we've never met or friends, they tend to glom around us. We're not lonely. We don't have to go work the room or find people. We just have a good time and people kind of show up and we're, and we're within this bubble vibration that's really very much in alignment with the people we want to meet, people that we'd like to hang out with, the people we want to dance with.

What it's, what it's, I'm gonna keep cutting you off because there's a time limit to the podcast. So. Here's what these are the things. So you established that it's not, it's in fact, which was one of our questions, which is, it's not just for the sex.

It is absolutely more than just for the sex, but also, is it though, a little bit? Is it a little bit for the sex is great. OK. All right.

Now, now let me, let me peel into this just a little bit more, and I think Lauren wanted to know some of the dynamics that you guys play by. Yeah, I was curious more like because being a thropple isn't always a thropple in the lifestyle. So that's why I was curious, like what happened. In the lifestyle sense, when y'all decide to play, can I choose?

Like, I'm going down the line with my train. I'm like, I'm going to have a little bit of this one. And Lauren wants a buffet. She'll take some of, she'll, she'll take some of Casey and some of your girlfriend and maybe maybe the wife a little later, maybe a little bit of wife for dessert, but I don't want all three at the same time.

Like, is that so? And then someone gets their feelings hurt. What happens? How does that seems like I would just be my feelings would be hurt.

All the time. So it, it, it's actually a great question. That has happened far less than I think we would have expected. Generally speaking, we mostly just play with couples.

Early on, it would be wifey and girlfriend, would be with the other guy, and I would be with the other woman. We would do a swap that is kind of two for one. And then after a couple of those experiences, I was like, hey, wait a minute, I, I, you know, I kind of, I, I, I like to mix things up more. So it's just kind of like a rotation.

Do you ever inadvertently wind up the cock? Like you just like, oh wow, I just wound up in the cock chair again. Like, does that happen? If I was in a throle, I'd constantly be the cock.

I'd be like, this is awesome at first, and then constantly in a cock chair, and then I'd be like, What the fuck did I do? This is so stupid. This is so stupid. I just fell for it again.

Yeah. Does your girl? Friend live with you or does she live separately? Very separate, about an hour away.

Does, does she stay there often enough where you're in, like, because different relationships are different. Like some threles live together. I mean they actually, they're a full-timere. Is that something that you would, you would consider or do?

So good question. I told you there were 3 phases of our relationship. Phase 1 was having, having fun. Phase 2 was, oh shit, we're a thropple.

And phase 3 is we woke up, this was about a month ago after we saw you in Mexico, we realized, oh, we're in a relationship. Then all of a sudden shit got real because, because what we ran into was each of our insecurities about a relationship. And you know, our girlfriends was that she was just a side piece and would get thrown aside at any time because, because my deal with, with my wife the whole time in the lifestyle is, hey, if this isn't working for us, we're done. Like this is what's primarily important.

But in a threle like she, like our girlfriend heard that one time and it's like, well, wait a minute, she incurs all of the losses, right? And so we had, we, you know, we had what we call the talk. Or the the negotiation and girlfriend had those insecurities. My wife had insecurities about, will I fall in love with the girlfriend?

Am I more attracted to her? Am I gonna, you know, love her more, all that. And my insecurities, quite frankly, was I've opened my heart to this person, you know, I'm, I'm like the Grinch. My, my heart's 3 sizes too small.

I've spent my whole life opening it to my wife, and all of a sudden girlfriend walks through the door and will I get my. Heart stopped. And now what's interesting is it was my wife actually who years ago said, you've, I have helped you open your heart as much as I possibly can. You need another woman in your life to open up the rest of the way.

She was really, really wise that way, which was mind blowing. And then I was defensive and argued it for years. So we had that it was a big knockdown, drag out conversation, and then we had what I call the negotiation. So we were healing, we were talking, and then.

Then the girls are negotiating over me like I'm a piece of meat, and it's like, well, I can take him on Tuesdays, but I can't because Mondays I teach pole and then Wednesdays I've got this. Now you take all that and you're like, oh my God, that's hot, there's a piece of meat, great. You walk in one day and someone's talking about changing the names on the beneficiary, and now they want to split it three ways and you think, oh my God, they're gonna kill me. What do you do?

Now what do you do? The two of them are ganging up on you. You're out, Casey. You're the person that's left with nothing.

Now how do you feel? Hm? Did, did, did that one ever cross your mind? Not yet, but now, now the rest of this interview is gonna suck because that's all I can think about.

Thank you. Well, I'm you, I gotta, I gotta, I call my lawyer right now. Options are on the table. I know that you know people that are in maybe thropples or even, uh, full poly relationships, right?

How does the dynamic? Work more when you do go to events, you do go to, because you've been to events. I know you've been to our event as a couple and you've been to our event as a thropple. I'm sure you've been to other events as a thro.

How does the approach differ? What's different about it? Do you get approached differently? Uh, after one of your events, we went to Temptations a couple for a couple of days.

One night, the girls were dressed as twins and they were wearing a super hot yellow, it was neon night, yellow with pasties, and there were, there was no missing that they were together. And that they're with me and what was hysterical was, was the black guys that would come up. They'd look at them and they'd look at me and they're like, uh-huh. And then they would just walk away and I felt for, for, for a moment I felt cool.

You felt black. You felt black, didn't you? You can say it, KC. No, that's all right.

No, you can say it. Everybody doesn't know, but we can see him right now. People that don't know that they're not on a Zoom with them, but Casey is in blackface. All right, no, it's, we have, we have to let them know, and we have a mutual friend, uh.

A couple from Colorado that you guys know that have been the last couple of events and I thought it was so cool. The husband walked up, he's like, OK, so what's the dynamic? And, and, and I, I, and I love that, you know, I just absolutely loved it. There are some people who are terrified of, of the three of us, and you can just tell they, they run away, they don't invest the same kind of energy.

There are some people that treat us just like any other couple, and they want to get to know us, you know, I think it's dangerous to assume. A couple goes to an event, you don't know what their deal is until you ask. And we've met couples where only the women play. We've met couples where they play separate, their DTF, you know, whatever it is.

Take the word poly away. They're just people, and unless you ask, you don't really know. And also, it's not the same, you know, we've only been doing this less than a year. I think our feelings have have evolved the first part of our relationship together.

I was just working my ass off. My only thought, this was like my. Affirmation every morning I would get up and say, don't screw this up. Don't screw this up.

Yeah, I mean, do you find yourself confused? Do you find yourself very confused during a few times per week? Like, does it add any more confusion to your life than it did before? Like, are you confused?

Like sometimes Lauren confuses me, so I can only imagine like why is she that way or is she gonna kill me today? And now I'm thinking that twice. Now you got two. Yeah, now I'm like, what the fuck are they?

Thinking. I've looked at both my wife and my girlfriend at different times in the last month and saying, I never thought it was possible, but now I, I now have the ability to let two women down simultaneously with the same amount of energy, and it's like way more efficient, but I just feel like I'm failing all the time. Like, like I'm just fail to the second parent. The opposite works too, where we push each other.

It does take an investment a little bit. We're kind of at that stage where we're figuring out how do we really want to rock it. And it and it requires talking, but then it requires also talking about what's the unspoken stuff in a relationship that you talk about? How do we be honest with each other?

Now my wife and I have been together a long time, so we kind of have a way of here's how honesty works, here's how communication works. So now we're in a relationship with a new person. We have to talk about talking, you know, things like I was on a separate date one time and. I didn't text my girlfriend because my wife doesn't like it when I text her, so I thought mistakenly that my girlfriend was essentially the same human being as my wife and really upset her, and I'm like, oh my gosh, like the rules are all different.

You're actually an entirely different human being with different desires, wants, needs, fears, and you know, so you gotta learn that stuff. Do the rules stand like this? Do you and Your wife play separately from your girlfriend ever, or do you only come in a set of three pack? I would be honest answer is it's been a little bit all of the above and we're figuring out what we want.

The answer is right now, yes, we have and we probably would, and our girlfriend does the same thing without us. How does that make you feel? Do you, do you ever get jealous when she does it on her end? Yeah, yeah, that's what I thought.

All right, now listen, this is my last, well, I do, but here's the, here's the thing, jealousy isn't bad, it means that I care. It's, it's acting on the jealousy that becomes the problem that, you know, and that's where I. That's where I got to screw my head on. It's how, how one reacts to, to jealousy.

Jealousy can be a cancer if it's not dealt with. All right, so here's my, my last question, and then, and then we can move on. I think he said that about the last question, but let's say, let's pretend this is the last class. All right, if there is a, a guy or a couple out there or anybody who's listening and they're thinking they'd like to be in a thropple, what are some things that you would say would be like, don't do it.

If this, oh, that's a good question. Don't, don't do this if you are, don't jump in the lifestyle to fix your marriage. But yeah, that's a great example. Yeah, because we have, to be honest with you, we have seen that before as well.

Thropples start and everything implodes right afterwards. Yeah, I think it's the same thing. If you're trying to fix a problem, I don't know that this is such a great solution, fix the problem. Um, I think the thing for us that's been so special is when the three of us.

Us are together it is kind of magical and it doesn't matter what we're doing whether it's getting ready to go out on the dance floor in the bedroom, driving someplace we're laughing, we have fun there's some something about the alchemy of the three of us where no one needs anything from each other and, and, and, and it's just a blast and I think absent of that this would have come and gone because the emotional. Facts once you get relationship heart, I mean you really do have to if it's a relationship, you have to invest in it and that can get heavy. So, so if we didn't have like that thing that really fed us, I think it would be hard um to have a fling like over a weekend or a month, whatever, go for it, have fun. But then the minute you're out of the fling and into the something else, uh, but don't try to fix a problem with it.

My wife does like to take a break during sex and. She'll go out and have a snack and, you know, I'm still working my ass off in there and then it's like they tag team, it's like, uh, you know, World WrestleMania or whatever, they high five each other, then girlfriend takes a break and wife comes back in and I'm like, hey, can I get a sip of water? It's been about 90 minutes. I really, I need a break.

And they're like, OK, you get a minute, you get a minute, but then get back in here. So, and then we have a contest, who's the winner and the winner is the last person to tap out at the end of the night. Alright, well, you've heard it from our expert, our throle expert, that's, that's what it sounds like. I'm still not doing it.

I'm not doing it. I mean, for me, for me, I made it sound totally awful, didn't I? No, no, no, no, you made it sound lovely for me. It sounds lovely.

You almost convinced me. I just don't want the financial burden. Let's go off. Well, Richard, I will be honest with you, I've gotten to know you fairly well.

I knew you from the podcast before I met you in person. I had these predisposed ideas of who you were, and I got to know you in person, and I was like, oh my God, I was so right about this guy. He is wound so tight. And, but the difference is.

In person you speak about 20% slower and I realized that's because on podcasts I always speed you up. But yeah, I think you'd be bad at this. I, I don't think you, I think, I think your head would, you would be particularly bad. I, I won't an overthinker.

All right, Lauren, there you heard it from Casey. That's sort of what a throle, I think, should sound like, and this makes it sound super easy. I'm, I think I'm ready. Our, ours sounded different though.

Ours sounded a little bit more like they need a W-2. Um, so that'll be it. We'll find our guy or our girl. Applications will be going out soon.

We should have somebody by next month. We'll figure out who that's going to be, who the lucky, lucky intern partner, don't say it, lover, lover, girlfriend, boyfriend will be. They'll be with us and part of our loving life. Yeah So that'll be, oh God, I sound like we're making such fun of him, of Casey and, and their relationship.

I feel like we're just mocking it, but we are not mocking him. We're just making fun of ourselves. To be fair, I always mock Casey, so that part is absolutely consistent. But I am not mocking their relationship.

I'm mocking us being in that relationship. Let's be clear, because I can barely be in one. I'm an utter failure in most things, but not in us. We got 20 years under the belt plus over 20, yeah, 4 of them were good.

You know what I mean? And that was combined. It wasn't even in a row, you know. I mean, if you, that's.

Oh, it's aggregated, yeah, uh, to remind everybody again, October, not my September private party. October, we still have 10 spots left, and we are taking, we are still taking on some guys. Uh, there's some spots left. If you're a hot single guy and you wanna go to this thing, you need to be vetted, ringing us up, get in contact.

This is a chance you could send us photos of your junk because it actually means something this time. Yeah, that's it. Lauren, do you have anything to say before I hang up? Listen, I put everything in the show notes so you don't have to rewind and forget stuff.

Just scroll down below and click all of our links, click all my links. All right, that's it. We will see you next month and even that's debatable because who knows, really. I.

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